Tips from parents on raising a confident child
Children who have good self-esteem have better mental health, can cope better with stress and are better at managing their emotions. They believe in themselves and can bounce back from mistakes or failures more easily than children who lack confidence.
Unfortunately, you can’t “teach” children how to be confident, per se. Rather, you must support and encourage them, promote confident behaviors and let them learn to be independent while letting them know that you’ll always be there for them if they fall. If you’re just starting out on this journey as a parent, the task of instilling confidence in your children might seem daunting. Who better to turn to, then, than parents who have already been there? We’ve gathered some of the best advice on raising a confident child from parenting blogs, written by real parents who have been in your shoes.
From Katie Olson for How Does She
- “Make a bucket list with your kids. Help them learn about goal setting and achieving.”
- “Teach your kids how to clean, work and how to make mistakes.”
- “Don’t rob your children of the experiences of doing things themselves. They will gain confidence and develop skills when they do things themselves.”
- “How’re their manners? I know the kids I see in my neighborhood who have great confidence also have great manners! They go hand in hand.”
- “Make your kids a self-esteem book and tell them how special they are and why. What a great idea for a Christmas gift or even yearly on their birthday!”
From Katie Hurley for Momtastic
- “Your passion is not necessarily her passion. Let your child be a child by trying all kinds of things.”
- “Kids need the opportunity to try something, mess up, and try again. So, instead of coaching them through every step, provide encouragement to help them figure things out on their own.”
- “To seek perfection… is to find disappointment around every corner. If your kid is a perfectionist, talk to him about how to reframe mistakes into learning opportunities and what it feels like when something doesn’t turn out as planned so that he understands that it’s natural [to] feel upset or disappointed.”
- “A great way to build confidence is to break new tasks into manageable pieces and start small. Breaking down tasks helps kids learn to take their time and master one small step at a time. When they do this, their self-confidence increases as they grow and learn.”
From Alida for The Realistic Mama
- “Create and allow opportunities for them to learn on their own and discover their surroundings.”
- “Give a specific compliment for the behavior you want to see more of!”
- Quality time with kids cannot be bought. It requires giving children your most precious resource – time.”
- “Teach kids how to communicate by communicating with them.”
- “The first thing parents with happy and confident children do is ensure their kids have rules. Kids want and NEED rules.”
- “Empower them to make their own decisions. When they know what the rewards and the punishments are for any given situation, your kids will build self-confidence through making their own decisions. They will be empowered to make decisions and take responsibility for their actions.”
- “Never criticize your children. Never blame your children. Never complain about your children.”
The importance of self-esteem in children
Every child is different and as their little personalities grow you’ll be able to tell if yours needs a boost in the self-esteem department. Confidence will service them in different ways at different points throughout their childhood. Toddlers develop it as they master new skills. As children grow older their relationships with others will increasingly affect their self-esteem. And as teenagers there are all manner of external causes at play that can disturb how they view themselves. The one thing that can remain constant throughout all of those stages is you and your unwavering commitment to cheering them on.
Confidence is well encouraged at Stamford American International School, as reflected in the IB learner profile of being inquirers, risk-takers and communicators. We’ll continue in the classroom the lessons of self-worth that you teach your children at home.
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